I'm gonna be really honest in this post--not that I'm not usually "real," but there are things I say in a joking manner that are truly things that I struggle with...things that hit me in my core.
I can tell you that if you struggle with this, then you haven't embraced your identity in Christ. And I would be right, but for those of us who have head knowledge and not heart knowledge, this may just further frustrate you. Why is it so hard to believe the TRUTH that God says about us? My only answer is 1 Peter 5:8:
Be alert and of sober mind.
Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion
looking for someone to devour.
I know that sounds like a "church" answer, but friends, if Satan can get ahold of our minds and distort our perception of our identity, then he wins. At least for now. He is pacing back and forth, just waiting for an opening on which to pounce.
I don't know what you are dealing with right now. Maybe it's a husband who doesn't look at you any more. Maybe its a child who never notices the small touches you put in her lunchbox each day. Maybe it's a friend whom you love, but always have to be the one to call/email/text first. A boss who doesn't realize all the time you spent on that project he just pushed aside.
Here's what I DO know--reading Scripture helps. I don't memorize as well as I used to, but even just having a go-to list of verses when I'm feeling low, changes me. It's not always immediate, but sometimes it takes TRUTH a while to sink in through the many layers of lies and defensiveness that have been built in us--many of which we've contributed to since we were young children.
Here are some of my go-to verses:
I am not forgotten:
"Though the mountains be shaken and the hills removed,
yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken
nor my covenant of peace be removed,' says the Lord,
who has compassion on you."
God wants me to cry to Him:
"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest."
God is on my side:
"The Lord Himself goes before you and will be with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged."
I am not alone:
"Where can I go from your Spirit? Where can I flee from Your presence?
If I go up to the heavens, You are there;
if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.
If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea,
even there Your hand will guide me, Your right hand will hold me fast.
If I say, 'surely darkness will hide me and the light become night around me,"
even the darkness will bot be dark to You;
the night will shine like the day, for darkness is as light to you."
"The Lord replied, 'My presence will go with you, and I will give you rest."
I am seen:
"Your eyes saw my unformed body;
all the days ordained for me were written in Your book
before one of them came to be."
He can turn my worry/anxiety into peace:
"Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation,
by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.
And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding,
will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus."
When I feel unworthy:
"...being strengthened with all power according to His glorious might
so that you may have great endurance and patience,
and giving joyful thanks toe the Father,
who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of His holy people in the kingdom of light."
When I feel stuck in a rut:
"Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.
See, I am doing a new thing!
Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?"
What verses speak to you when you are feeling small, unworthy, unlovable, or just forgotten?